Its easy for him to say he crashed at a friends, but let him get over the guilt or offers an explanation before he comes back. i understand with everything going on it is hard, but that was an issue with my ex-husband after we had kids. Now, I dont know all the details of this, but I would say that hes pushing you away unintentionally while trying to cope with the loss of his father. My boyfriend is Lebanese and given the situation there (economic crisis, unemployment rate and poverty rate are getting higher), he began manifesting symptoms of an overly stressed man. Honestly if youve tried messaging him and he isnt responding I would just stop. i think if i knew he wasnt capable of doing these things i wouldnt feel so strongly. This weekend I called for a break, and told him we should spend time apart. Is he older? I love my boyfriend so much, weve been together for a year now. Where Im at in my life, after 5 years, if Im not a fianc, Im gone. He also always texts me daily, and he is generally the one to text first, and always responds to my texts immediately. We have complete separate paths in store and we have absolutely nothing in common and we also live together but we barely see each other so you would think that when we do have time for one another he would enjoy the time he has with me but it doesnt feel like that. I been communicating with him about his lack of effort , no improvement. I COME HOME AT 6 PM AND THE TRASH IS STILL THERE. SHE STILL HAD HER HARNOUS ON HER. i jst think hes all abt himself and idk wht do. Here we are stuck in the same pattern, he is hot and heavy in our relationship one month, then goes cold out of nowhere. Has financial debt, related to college expenses. Thank you for taking the time to type the words in your comment. Or he took them off somewhere he shouldnt have between home and work and left them or maybe regifted to one of his cohort? You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. Find yourself then get to understand your mate emotionally and mentally. He asked if I wanted help learning and I said a big yes. This is really helpful. I hate to say it maybe he did something he wasnt so suppose to and felt guilty leading him to end things. Are circumstances in your boyfriends life affecting how he relates to you and others? Last week,for like 2/3 days hes been quiet and inactive. I sometimes wonder if my daughter was dating someone like him, if Id tell her to ditch him. He may not be the person for you. Tinder is amazing, by the way. I cleaned his puke and poop from damn near halfway up our bathroom walls from when he got e.coli a few weeks ago, but we have a housing inspection on the 28th and my house looks like a storage unit and its filthy! im in the same boat as you and it really sucks. Im sorry. Thank you so much for what you said! He is a very patient and calm person. Hes an atheist, and slowly his mocking of God and Christianity began to affect my own believes. I feel he could have a gf or just not be that interested. My bestfriend just wanted to get me with someone so she picked her friend and I told her that I needed to get to know him first and not rush into a relationship so me and this guy stayed up for 24 hours on ft and we kinda just clicked he told me he liked me and I sort of liked him but I told him I still wanted to just keep talking so we did and he was so impatient he just wanted to ask me out so a week later I was like sure and we started dating. I tried to talk to him about it multiple times, every time he would apologize and say he would be better, but he always fell back in the same routine. Maybe what they need to here is (as an example)- Im not feeling like a priority to you, and therefore what I need is for you to make dinner with me one night this week so we can reconnect.. You will end up hating yourself. Ive been with my mate for 8 years prior to dating we were band mates .I knew him to be extremely introverted and not the happy go lucky type but I honestly had no idea it would be like pulling a tooth without novocaine to get any emotional response, support or growth,out of him!I feel stunted and see my life ever changing and evolving yet his ,the same .He has taken on many of my attributes oddly ,yet I feel, Ive gained nothing in return. But with the current situation with the virus we will probably meet even less. he again skipped it. Weve been arguing a lot because I just feel unappreciated, I just want flowers & thoughtfulness like I do for him. Once in a while, I managed to do something to please him. The worst of all, Hes so Unforgiven, if we have misunderstanding ill sent a text of apology, after that ill try to call him, but, he wont pickup on several occasions. He stopped foreplay. Im so sorry this happened to you. Please take some money you get from promotion and go to Counseling to help you. If I try to tell him how much I care he insists I dont. Im still in high school. 1. And I decided Ive had enough, and it wasnt even a full month yet! It hurts a lot when they say things to intentionally hurt us. He has some really great qualities and some sh**y ones. He has weak immune systems and get sick often so we do have days without communication.Im completely okay with not talking everyday. After that night i got my phone taken because my grades were awful (bc of home issues) so me and him didnt talk much but that did not stop me.I would sneak the phone and iPad all the time and talk to him still but then my mom found out about this boyfriend of mine (my sister is a snitch) and i told her that i liked him but i wasnt dating him. Like hes not gonna change. I asked him where he skated since his bio mentioned he skated and then he said he knew me!! I am tired of him not making a plan and his sudden switch in personalities. He gets annoyed and sighs and does the What do you want from me now?? I have been doing some self-evaluation to determine the role I played in the relationship. My first true love affair and I got completely ripped off or short changed. Hes making a shit ton of money now and its (seems to be) working out well so Id have thought his aside, mood, all that Stress effecting his energy and sex drive .. Would have gotten better. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. I was in so much pain and he couldnt even come to check on me. Its okay to build from scratch instead of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and constantly being destroyed in to nothing. But I cant help but read it as a lack of interest, it makes me feel horrible on dates and sends me in a spiral of panic that he is bored of me. What happened now Millie? He He does not take me out for surprise outings or does not plan anything for us to do as a couple, but still i do not complain much about that. Lately, it feels like we fight all the time. Its like he wants to cause as much damage as he can verbally to win and I dont get it. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like the future that I saw with him will not be possible anymore. Before that weve only met to chat, watch a movie or take a walk. Boy bye. He said he wanted to have a deeper talk about expectations and his four years old son before we can be official. Im about to turn 20 in a few months and hes 25, Im afraid i might be a little too naive or wayyy too vulnerable for someone like him. I had an awful night at work as a nursing assistant with 18 patients who were ungrateful and nurses who treated me like crap after doing everything for everyone around me. Such as examples of what he did made you feel a certain way and what was the real reason he did that? Most people reading this right now are probably thinking oh my god youre so young and u have so much time! Reading thru the comments solidifies my opinion that any woman who actually feels, attempts to comprehend said feelings, does her due diligence to ensure consideration for any other human being that may be identified as part of her analysis, and is able to attempt to reconcile the differences that led her to see things she could have done better is going to accept that her analysis as follows: She will always be in confused state of mind until she accepts that he doesnt have to put in effort to do or say anything for her to feel he loves her because like all children do, the man-child she wants so badly messed up, smashed thru her boundaries he forgot the moment he sw her lips stop movinb, blamed her for being so stupid n try to set boundaries HAHA,and eventually his man-child tantrum scores him the win! I know he is under a huge amount of stress because of work issues and family issues We dont spend much time with each other since we are both extremely busy, however; I am always keen to plan my time so we could at least spend half a day with each other weekly or every two weeks. I couldnt take the iPad with me if i snuck out but i did tell him to meet me at my gate at midnight. He has always been so sweet and consistent. He was telling me about his plan for tomorrow and I asked about when we are supposed to go out, he acted annoyed and commented I knew you would be worried about that really? I tried to be understanding and not ask for a lot but it just got worse. Not fair and a relationship is 2 waysSince you have a Son and a new job would NOT recommend that you move to him. Also he NEVER wants to have sex so that concerns me too. Right now hes not even talking to me. I want to tell him that having me over for take out and to spend the night is not enough. If your self-image is shattered because your boyfriend stopped making an effort, then youre expecting too much from him. I am not an emotionally stable person I take meds for anxiety and depression and have for years now. Meaning me. I said ok. I dont know why he got back with me when he cant even put effort. I am depressed as well and yet my partner is on top of my prioroty list. Again, tons of excuses. He confess to me that he started to love in our 1 month relationship. But have to understand yourself mentality first because if not you will lose yourself in the process. Are you still in your relationship? We no longer sleep in the same bed, he has chosen to sleep on the couch. Should I leave? He has made me realize a lot of my flaws and made me seek my inner self to understand why I am the way I am. He is not often visit to me. Nothing cleaned up, ingredients still on the counter, and not one thing made for me to eat.. and even better, after letting me in the door, not a how was work. Letting Go of Someone You Loveis filled with comforting, practical ways to heal your heart. my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me either but i dont trip i just stay at home i have no friends i do all i can for him and his children and he texts other girls send titts and pussy shots from his children mothers i rub his feet when he gets off work feed him so that he could save his money he even went on a trip without me but i keep his daughter while he was gone and all i ask is for him to spend a little time with me or even buy me a gift hell i would be happy with a trip to mcdonalds i know thats sad am totally not happy with this relationship. Ive been doing long distance for nearly 4 years now which hasnt been so good with COVID but honestly thats just an excuse, I think our relationship was still doing bad back then. 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